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5 Tips To Shift Your Crappy Life

Life can be a bitch sometimes, can’t it? It can downright suck at times. We’ve all been there! And there are ways to shift your outlook deliberately so that you can feel better.

Do you have any rituals that you do? One of mine every year is to review in my old journals to see where I was in the previous years. The majority of the time it puts me into a state of gratitude to NOT be where I was before!

As March is my birthday month, I recently did this activity. I found the date when I was able to define my purpose statement of bringing joy to the world—on March 22, 2011! That was on the spring equinox eight years ago. That has put me on a trajectory that I couldn’t even imagine at that time! Life is like that!

Here are 5 Tips that help shift how you look at life and to gain clarity…

1. The Reverse Gap

So often we are focused on the future that we forget to appreciate the small things of each and every day. There is a gap between where you are and where you want to be. When you look back, it brings you to a place you can feel grateful for today. This act of looking back is a strategy called the reverse gap. It helps you to find joy right now with where you are at the moment.

So often we are focused on the future that we forget to appreciate the small things of each and every day. There is a gap between where you are and where you want to be. When you look back, it brings you to a place you can feel grateful for today. This act of looking back is a strategy called the reverse gap. It helps you to find joy right now with where you are at the moment.

2. Your Personal Purpose

Figure out why you are here! Why were you born? What special gifts and talents do you have to share with the world? I often say that discovering your personal purpose is the most significant inner work you can do for yourself. It helps to steer your path from that point on. And it also helps you to appreciate the entire journey that you have been on so far!

3. Practice Compassion Not Judgment

Everything that we experience in our lives is unique to each and every one of us. This is why it is so important not to judge others—because we simply do NOT know their path! Find ways to have compassion for others as we are all on a challenging journey! Be a conscious creator of your life and know that your thoughts and feelings affect not only you but also others around you. So refuse to be toxic by judging others but rather spread love through compassion.

4. Reframe Your Challenges

Once you can look at the challenges and the hard times of your life as big learning experiences that have helped you to grow in immense ways, it helps to alleviate some of the pain from those times. I’ve never heard anyone say that they didn’t learn something from their challenges and more often than not, people have grown more than they ever thought possible. Eventually you can find ways to be grateful for those challenges. It might be tough when you’re in the thick of it, but know that this too shall pass!

5. Find Your Sense of Direction

Knowing your personal purpose gives you a sense of direction and clarity. It helps to make sense of the madness of your life previously—you know all those crazy turns and decisions where you wonder later on why the heck did I do that? And it helps you to make solid decisions going into the future. You can discover that there is a red thread running through your entire life. And it helps you have clarity going into the future when you do have that sense of direction to guide you.

Using rituals or taking the time to just think or journal can offer that simple pause in life—where you consciously take a moment to appreciate where you are right now.

In this crazy busy world we live in, I think these are some of the best ways to stay sane and on track! What are some of the rituals, habits, or activities that keep you moving forward?

Being Inspired by the Phases of Life

As I am leaving my youngest to attend University on the other side of the planet, I’m feeling a bit nostalgic and have been reflecting over my five decades and how there are so many different phases we go through in life.

I see my young daughters entering their twenties filled with hope, dreams, and goals for the future. They have their whole lives ahead of them and are filled with confidence but also a sense of trepidation of heading into the unknown. I remember those times very well and felt the same way. I’ve read that our brains are fully developed at 25 and after that age is when we tend to get our stuff together and become mature adults. And your relationship to your children will change at that time.

Recalling my thirties, it was all about having babies and raising young children. There wasn’t much free time for myself as I was focused on providing a good life for my family. I often talk to young moms and tell them to enjoy their babies and young children while they can because it goes by so fast!

In my forties, my life was about balancing career, getting “ahead,” and still very much focused on my family, but dealing with different problems that come along with the teenage years. It has been a pretty turbulent time with lots of ups and downs, twists and turns.

As I’m heading into my fifth decade now, with children leaving home to venture out into the world, I suddenly find I have much more time for myself. Running a women’s executive network has also shown me that many women at this age actually step into their power. They no longer have all their focus on their children and have a lot of energy to use all their experience to make a positive impact in the world.

And I am watching and learning from friends in their sixties as they are witnessing their young adult children finding their way, make their marks in the world, and especially the miracle of grandchildren. They are so enjoying this stage of life!

The one thing I’ve learned is that you must enjoy each phase of life as it comes. Be aware that it will change eventually so be as present as you can now in each stage.

I am so grateful I was able to take the time to help get my daughter settled into her new home far away from home. I’m so proud of both of my daughters and how they are venturing out into adulthood. And I see the cycle about to repeat as well with them. From my perspective now, it’s time to be there in the background supporting them if they need it and also cheering them on to find their brilliance in their own way.

Life is truly what we make of it. Yes, there are immense challenges at times but when we can see how we grow and learn from these, it gives us a sense of accomplishment to know we can handle whatever is thrown our way. Enjoy each phase of your life! Because once it’s gone, it’s gone. Be inspired by where you are now…and make the most of it while you can!

17 Steps to Surviving The Great Awakening

Something is going on with our world….can you feel it? On the outside it looks chaotic and can be frightening. But on the inside there is a shift happening…and it’s happening to individuals, societies, and to Gaia. People are thinking differently, acting differently. The Earth is going through as much change as we are. Science is showing how energetic fields are changing.

Of course, it also depends on where you are putting your focus. If you are watching the mainstream news, you’d think the world was going to hell. But when you talk to people, listen to how they are thinking, and seeing how people are actually taking back their power, you get a totally different perspective!

What I see out there is that the majority of the people are sick and tired of war, hate, anger, etc. Most people want to live in peace. We are connecting more and more globally and realizing that people can be different and still live in peace!

I was recently in Sarajevo and I was shown how Muslims, Catholics, Orthodox, and Jews can all live and worship in the same 200 meter city block and be peaceful. It’s a matter of respect and compassion for each other as human beings first and allowing people to follow what is right for them.

I often hear now the term “The Great Awakening” and I think this is referring to the raising of human consciousness, this global shift we are experiencing. We are learning our power that we have within us—and how we’ve been controlled over the centuries.

In my own journey and pursuit of Truth, I’ve gone through so much information, trying to understand what is actually true. This is not a journey for the light hearted! I will continue on this path as I truly hope we are learning to come together as ONE, that we come from a place of love and compassion, and that we take a stand against what I would definitely consider an evil force on this planet. I hope these steps help you as well. The bottom line is that we are all in this together. Let’s work together to make our world an incredible and beautiful place!

  1. Know that there is a much bigger divine plan at work—this goes far beyond the physical plane.
  2. Remember the good guys win! Keep your hope strong!
  3. Divided we fall, united we win. Their worst fear is for us to figure out the truth. Love your fellow humans and have compassion for those who are most lost in the lies. Stick together in the pursuit of truth!
  4. The Truth will set us free! As hard as it may be accept some of this, we must collectively be aware of the atrocities in order to heal the world.
  5. There are many more victims than perpetrators and they need our help. And many of the perpetrators were raised in this horrible environment—some may be saved, many cannot. There is also a huge number that have been blackmailed and controlled—thinking there was no way out.
  6. Take time to find your balance – when you read some of the awful shit that has been going on, take it in small doses and then reconnect to what is important in your life—the love of your family, friends, the beauty of nature, etc.
  7. You’re going to have to unlearn–and relearn–probably most of what you think is true now. Be open-minded and question everything. Learn to trust your own instincts and discernment.
  8. The whole world has been lied to and manipulated—not for the good of humanity but for the good of the elite—you’ve been playing a fixed game that hasn’t been in your favor! And unfortunately we’ve trusted those who were doing the most harm!
  9.  Remember that 99.999% of humanity is GOOD! We all want love, peace, joy and abundance.
  10.  Only .001% are the psychopaths who have been in control of the world’s systems. That is changing as you read this!
  11.  There’s going to be a LOT of chaos as the systems fall. This is a necessary part of the process…
  12.  And there’s a HUGE amount of opportunity to help build a new world! Think about your passions and how you can contribute to making the world a better place!
  13.  Once the bad guys have been rounded up and stopped, we’re going to enter into a time of a great renaissance!
  14.  Detox your body, your mind, and your environment to the best of your ability. Stop eating poison. Stop watching TV. Get off constant social media. Get out in nature. Connect in person with friends and loved ones. Do things you love!
  15.  Keep your own energy and feelings high. Finding peace in your world helps to create peace in everyone’s world. Focus on love and peace.
  16.  Visualize peace on Earth! Our minds and imagination are our most powerful tools! Let’s use them collectively for good!
  17.  We’ve all chosen to be alive at this time! So embrace the global shift and do your part to help in whatever ways you feel called to. We are all a part of this Great Awakening!

The Joy of Giving

As the holidays are rapidly approaching, we tend to get wrapped up in the busy-ness of the times, rushing around with all the activities, meetings, parties, shopping, and cooking.  Rather than the materialistic perspective, we should be taking some time to take stock of our lives, to feel the gratitude for all the blessings we have in our lives.  No matter what your circumstances are, there are always things you can be grateful for in your life.  Appreciation is a way of giving thanks to our higher Source.

The Law of Giving is one of the fundamental laws of the Universe.  What most people may not realize is that giving is a cycle.  In order to give, you must receive.  And in order to receive, you must also give.  I do not believe we are taught to receive very well.  If someone gives you a compliment like “I love your new haircut,” do you shrug it off or try to dismiss it because you get embarrassed by the attention and say something like, “Oh, I can’t stand my hair, it‘s never how I like it.”  Or sometimes we feel obligated to return the compliment.  That would be OK, if we meant it…but do we really?

Giving is something that needs to come from the heart.  When you do, you do not have any sort of expectation.  You give for the pleasure of giving and making someone else happy.  My daughter recently asked me what was the best Christmas memory I had.  I thought about it for a while and then told her it was when I had given my daughters their handmade quilts.  I had taken their baby clothes and started cutting squares in February of that particular year.  I worked on making these quilts off and on all year and my daughters even helped with a part of it.  I was hand sewing everything until in Nov when I was able to borrow a sewing machine.  Then it went much faster.  I stayed up late several nights to get them done after the girls had gone to bed so they wouldn’t see them.

Considering I had never made a quilt before in my life, these were definitely labors of love!  My daughters eyes glowed when they opened those quilts and even though they got plenty of toys, those quilts were their favorite presents that year.  My daughter’s each slept with “mommy’s quilt” for most of their young lives (and now that they are older, they have saved them for their future children!) I had told them that first night they slept with them that these special quilts were just like me hugging them all night long.  Of course, the mommy quilts became even more significant when we were separated for 1400 days.  My daughters were snuggled in my love every night through those quilts.

The best presents are the ones that come from the heart.  We assume it needs to be material objects but what about our love, a hug, tell someone how much they mean to you in a nice letter or card, give someone your encouragement or faith or trust.  Think about this as the holidays approach.  What has been the best present you’ve ever given, or received, and why?  And what can you give this year that will make a difference with those you love?

Stop Stuffing That Pain!

We are in some dire need for collective healing all over this planet. There has been so much pain coming to the surface and so many stuffed emotions rearing their ugly little heads. Things we didn’t want to feel again.

According to scientific research, we store traumas in our cells. We can even carry our ancestor’s traumas in our DNA. The more aware we are of this, the more proactively we can work to heal ourselves, and our world.

When we have worked through our emotions, the stories we carry no longer have an emotional charge. I have felt this in my own life several times. I’ve stuffed away painful situations, hoping to never see them again, only to have it surface years later in unforeseen circumstances. And I’ve worked hard to break the patterns of pain, to try and fully heal, so that I don’t have to experience something again. It takes courage and a very conscious effort to do this “inner work.”

Sometimes it may feel like there are dark forces attacking or negative energies behind what is happening in your life. It knocks you down hard. And you have to pick yourself up again, shake it off, and keep moving forward. You may even reach a point that you just want to scream a big F you! You will NOT be held back! You are a force for good and of the light!

We are collectively experiencing a revelation–a bright light of truth shining on our global pain. It is bringing to surface those hidden emotions that we haven’t wanted to deal with, showing corruption and horrific events that we didn’t even know were possible.

The #MeToo movement has touched so many lives, both with women and men. People who have been hurt and abused are speaking out and this is good. I can tell you that 100% of women I know have all experienced abuse from men at one point in their lives. And I know a lot of men as well who are telling their stories.

We need to collectively take a stand and say NO MORE!

We will not tolerate any sort of abuse, any sort of misconduct, any sort of sexual inappropriateness, and certainly not any sort of physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual abuse. From anyone! Or any institution!

We also need to dig for the truth. There are things happening in our world right now that are happening on so many levels. Many of the current affairs mean one thing on the surface and almost the complete opposite underneath the rhetoric and propaganda.

I do believe that the TRUTH will set us free! Be open-minded to having your beliefs rocked and shaken to the core.

I remember reading a term “religious abuse” in a book a decade ago for the first time. We are seeing how just how many “trusted” people in all of our institutions, whether they are religious, political, educational, media, business, etc, have used their power inappropriately.

No more.

The majority of people on this planet are good. They love their families and want peace. And the scariest thing of all for the evil ones is that we come together. They try to divide us through race, beliefs, politics, education, culture, and in so many ways. We the people are rising above this. We ARE coming together. We are feeling our pain and it’s moving us to action! It IS happening.

So let’s continue to have intelligent conversations. Authentic dialogues. Let’s support each other. Have compassion and empathy for each other on this journey we call life.

Because life has been painful. For ALL of us in one way or another.

And we can make a conscious choice to rise above it. To use that pain to fuel our passion and make a positive difference.

To connect us to each other, heart to heart. And to heal. To love one another.

And to decide that we are better than the pain.

We are stronger, wiser, and more resilient.

Because in the end, it comes down to: did we live our lives fully? Did we give more love and support? Did we follow our hearts? Did we do good in the world? Did we make a positive impact?

That’s what we’ll be remembered for and that is how we will celebrate our lives!

Make the conscious choice to be empowered and choose love over fear. Each and every time! We can do this!