Category Archives: Joy

Stop Stuffing That Pain!

We are in some dire need for collective healing all over this planet. There has been so much pain coming to the surface and so many stuffed emotions rearing their ugly little heads. Things we didn’t want to feel again.

According to scientific research, we store traumas in our cells. We can even carry our ancestor’s traumas in our DNA. The more aware we are of this, the more proactively we can work to heal ourselves, and our world.

When we have worked through our emotions, the stories we carry no longer have an emotional charge. I have felt this in my own life several times. I’ve stuffed away painful situations, hoping to never see them again, only to have it surface years later in unforeseen circumstances. And I’ve worked hard to break the patterns of pain, to try and fully heal, so that I don’t have to experience something again. It takes courage and a very conscious effort to do this “inner work.”

Sometimes it may feel like there are dark forces attacking or negative energies behind what is happening in your life. It knocks you down hard. And you have to pick yourself up again, shake it off, and keep moving forward. You may even reach a point that you just want to scream a big F you! You will NOT be held back! You are a force for good and of the light!

We are collectively experiencing a revelation–a bright light of truth shining on our global pain. It is bringing to surface those hidden emotions that we haven’t wanted to deal with, showing corruption and horrific events that we didn’t even know were possible.

The #MeToo movement has touched so many lives, both with women and men. People who have been hurt and abused are speaking out and this is good. I can tell you that 100% of women I know have all experienced abuse from men at one point in their lives. And I know a lot of men as well who are telling their stories.

We need to collectively take a stand and say NO MORE!

We will not tolerate any sort of abuse, any sort of misconduct, any sort of sexual inappropriateness, and certainly not any sort of physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual abuse. From anyone! Or any institution!

We also need to dig for the truth. There are things happening in our world right now that are happening on so many levels. Many of the current affairs mean one thing on the surface and almost the complete opposite underneath the rhetoric and propaganda.

I do believe that the TRUTH will set us free! Be open-minded to having your beliefs rocked and shaken to the core.

I remember reading a term “religious abuse” in a book a decade ago for the first time. We are seeing how just how many “trusted” people in all of our institutions, whether they are religious, political, educational, media, business, etc, have used their power inappropriately.

No more.

The majority of people on this planet are good. They love their families and want peace. And the scariest thing of all for the evil ones is that we come together. They try to divide us through race, beliefs, politics, education, culture, and in so many ways. We the people are rising above this. We ARE coming together. We are feeling our pain and it’s moving us to action! It IS happening.

So let’s continue to have intelligent conversations. Authentic dialogues. Let’s support each other. Have compassion and empathy for each other on this journey we call life.

Because life has been painful. For ALL of us in one way or another.

And we can make a conscious choice to rise above it. To use that pain to fuel our passion and make a positive difference.

To connect us to each other, heart to heart. And to heal. To love one another.

And to decide that we are better than the pain.

We are stronger, wiser, and more resilient.

Because in the end, it comes down to: did we live our lives fully? Did we give more love and support? Did we follow our hearts? Did we do good in the world? Did we make a positive impact?

That’s what we’ll be remembered for and that is how we will celebrate our lives!

Make the conscious choice to be empowered and choose love over fear. Each and every time! We can do this!

The BEST Revenge Ever!

Sometimes bad things happen to good people.

I’m sure you’ve heard that phrase before. And most likely experienced it yourself, wondering why this horrible thing was happening to you. We’ve all been there. We’ve been angry, frustrated, sad, annoyed, depressed. It is a part of the human experience.

I recently saw a Jay Shetty video (can highly recommend his videos for inspiration!!) and he shared how the heart machines show a flat line when we are dead. And when our hearts are beating strong, the line goes up and down consistently. That up and down movement shows that we are ALIVE! And it so corresponds to our lives.

Those tough times are often where we grow the most, where we tap into strength and resources we have within us that we didn’t even know existed. It’s where we find our courage, our tears, and our love. Those times give us a natural contrast to truly appreciate the good times that we have.

I have a friend who hasn’t really ever experienced anything “bad” in her life. No one close to her has died or been sick, she’s got a good job, loves what she does, her kids are all doing great, her husband loves her. And guess what? She’s shared with me once….she’s bored!! She’s bored with her life!

I’ll be honest, I just looked at her and thought to myself, gosh I’d be happy to trade. I thought that for about a second. And then I realized, no I wouldn’t want to trade. My life has been filled with the extremes on both the high and the low side. And I consider myself lucky actually! Because I love so much about my experiences in life, and I love the people it has brought into my life.

The funny thing I’ve learned is that the BEST revenge is keeping your frequency high.

This means being grateful, appreciating all the small moments, sending love out into the world, laughing those gut wrenching belly laughs that make you cry, enjoying great food, having those deep human connections with your friends and loved ones, reading a good book, continually learning, and always finding a way to trust in yourself and in your life. It means actively choosing love over fear. Every day.

I don’t like to talk about “dark energy” very much. But I can tell you it is definitely there. I have felt “attacked” several times just before I was to do something really big—something that would positively impact a lot of people. I used to think there was something wrong with me. But then I realized that I have this bigger purpose—of bringing joy to the world and to the workplace—and that people need what I have to offer. I can show people the way to find more joy.

And it is because of my resolve, that when I get hit with yet another “bad” event, I focus on love, on genuinely connecting to people, sharing my message, looking for the lessons, and staying committed to making a positive difference in the world.

So I pick myself back up, shake it off. Sometimes even get really pissed and say “No! I’m not going to let this stop me!”….and then I move on forward. And guess what? It does make a difference! So then I know I’m on the right path because it gets confirmed in so many ways.

I have a great tool that I developed called the Joyometer (you can download here and get a recording to the backstory of it). I call this a “mood management system” because it makes you aware of the feelings you are experiencing. We often say “I am mad,” “I am sad,” etc. But that is not who we are. We are just experiencing that particular emotion for a certain amount of time. When you can become fully aware of your emotional state, you step into your power. You are back in the driver’s seat of your life and can start to create and manifest things you truly want to experience.

Our world is going through a HUGE transformation right now. Even our Earth is feeling this energetic shift. Our job—ALL of us!—is to keep our frequency on a high level as we transition into a New Earth. Yes, we are going to experience (and are!) a lot of chaos. Just know this is a part of this process.

We are coming together as ONE, we are one in our humanity and we have this lovely planet barreling through space. So let’s come together in love, joy, peace and abundance. Let’s create new systems that are good for the planet and good for each other. It’s truly one of the most exciting times to be alive!

Can We Change the World with Intentions?

Yes we can! We are way more powerful than we’ve been led to believe!

I recently finished reading The Power of Eight by Lynne McTaggart (which I can highly recommend) and she has been on a quest to figure out why intentions work so well. Lynne is an investigative journalist turned bestselling author and uses her skills to take a very scientific analytical approach to showing how we really are all connected (her books The Field and The Bond go into this in depth). With over a decade of research into intentions and working with groups, what she discovered is that while the person or object of intention received amazing healing/energy/positive impacts, etc, the act of sending intentions to others has a profound positive impact on the sender as well. And the effect is magnified when it is done in groups.

We have a tremendous creative power within ourselves, and our thoughts and emotions absolutely help us to create our world and life experiences. Whether we are doing this on a conscious level or not is up to the level of understanding we have gained. The majority of people live their lives by default not understanding this creative force we have within us. Often they are creating things they do NOT want in their lives, especially through fear and worrying. Once you start to learn about this creative power within, it changes your life forever. You can start to test this with smaller things until you gain the confidence to know that YOU are the one creating your reality. This knowledge puts you into the driver’s seat of your life.

After reading The Power of Eight, I am going to start experimenting with this in a dedicated way. I’ve worked with mastermind groups and teams for many years in various forms. Participating in global meditations always feels powerful. Sometimes we can feel so freaking small that we can’t do anything with all the major problems in the world…but the fact is that we CAN, especially if we work with others. What Lynne discovered in her years of research is that the power of intentions is magnified significantly when groups come together. And there’s plenty of research that shows how group intentions/prayers/meditations really do have an impact on society.

So let’s celebrate this immense power we have within ourselves and let’s use it as a force for GOOD. Let’s come together in groups of friends and loved ones to set the intentions of a peaceful and loving world where everyone’s needs are taken care of. We can do this—especially when we come together.

We can make a conscious choice to stay away from the divisiveness and the fear; instead we can choose love, compassion, and understanding. We can be a part of the solution. We are truly one and the energy that binds us together is love. Let’s use this in a positive way, and set the intention to create the lives we want and the world we can be proud to leave to our grandchildren!

You can find out more about The Power of Eight here

Putting Yourself First—For a Change!

How often do you think about pleasing yourself? We often put ourselves on the bottom of the list for nurturing and caring for when in reality we should be at the top—then we’ll have more energy to give to others.

Women, and mothers especially it seems, are notorious for giving until they don’t have anything left of themselves. Although some men/dads are also falling into this category more often now. This is not the way of the future as it is not sustainable in the long run.

Here are 10 easy ways to do things for yourself that will improve your life immediately. How many of these are you doing regularly?

  1. Stop doing things you don’t want to do
  2. Communicate clearly
  3. Stop pleasing people
  4. Say what you really mean
  5. Trust your instincts
  6. Never talk yourself down
  7. Follow your inspirations
  8. Don’t be afraid to say NO!
  9. Don’t be afraid to say YES!
  10. Be kind to yourself!

Is Self Care Selfish?

Many mothers will tell you that they put their children and families needs first. Now while taking care of your family is and should be a high priority….taking care of yourself FIRST should be an even higher priority. Often our societal norms dictate that we should be selfless, and think of others before ourselves, that it is selfish to think of yourself.

I learned early on when I had young children that I needed what I called “mommy time” every once and a while. My mom or my husband would take the kids off to do something fun with them, and I could just BE. I didn’t have to do anything. In fact, just sitting on the sofa reading a book or taking a nap was heaven. This time was vital for me.

Now that the kids are grown, I’m finding a new way to have “my time” and it is essential. With the corporate clients I work with, there are so many who have calendars that are jam-packed. Recently in a meeting with an HR Director, she was trying to find a time for a follow-up meeting, and I saw as she scrolled through her calendar, that is was non-stop meetings from 8 to 5 every single day for weeks in advance. I asked her if she’s catching up on her real work after she puts her kids to bed and I could tell I hit a nerve. Yes, she was taking time after hours to complete what should have been her normal day-to-day tasks.

It is not an uncommon story. Unfortunately, I see it more and more and this is NOT sustainable. 

Scheduling time for self-care is not a luxury—it’s a necessity!

When you take care of yourself first, you are then able to give more to others. Why do you think on airplanes you’re supposed to put your air mask on first before your kids? Same reasoning. If you aren’t doing well, how can you expect to take care of others?

So drop the guilt or the shame or the overwhelm. Be selfish! Because it’s not! Block out time in your calendar if you have to. Otherwise, there’s a high risk that eventually you may burn out or that your body will give you a major health issue that will stop you in your tracks.

Discover the things that feed your soul and put them into your days and weeks regularly. It can be taking a walk, being out in nature, painting, yoga, meditation, biking, spending quality time with your best friend, dancing, skiing, whatever it might be. Just do it! You will be glad. Especially because it’s the things that recharge our batteries that will give us a life we love to live.