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The BEST Revenge Ever!

Sometimes bad things happen to good people.

I’m sure you’ve heard that phrase before. And most likely experienced it yourself, wondering why this horrible thing was happening to you. We’ve all been there. We’ve been angry, frustrated, sad, annoyed, depressed. It is a part of the human experience.

I recently saw a Jay Shetty video (can highly recommend his videos for inspiration!!) and he shared how the heart machines show a flat line when we are dead. And when our hearts are beating strong, the line goes up and down consistently. That up and down movement shows that we are ALIVE! And it so corresponds to our lives.

Those tough times are often where we grow the most, where we tap into strength and resources we have within us that we didn’t even know existed. It’s where we find our courage, our tears, and our love. Those times give us a natural contrast to truly appreciate the good times that we have.

I have a friend who hasn’t really ever experienced anything “bad” in her life. No one close to her has died or been sick, she’s got a good job, loves what she does, her kids are all doing great, her husband loves her. And guess what? She’s shared with me once….she’s bored!! She’s bored with her life!

I’ll be honest, I just looked at her and thought to myself, gosh I’d be happy to trade. I thought that for about a second. And then I realized, no I wouldn’t want to trade. My life has been filled with the extremes on both the high and the low side. And I consider myself lucky actually! Because I love so much about my experiences in life, and I love the people it has brought into my life.

The funny thing I’ve learned is that the BEST revenge is keeping your frequency high.

This means being grateful, appreciating all the small moments, sending love out into the world, laughing those gut wrenching belly laughs that make you cry, enjoying great food, having those deep human connections with your friends and loved ones, reading a good book, continually learning, and always finding a way to trust in yourself and in your life. It means actively choosing love over fear. Every day.

I don’t like to talk about “dark energy” very much. But I can tell you it is definitely there. I have felt “attacked” several times just before I was to do something really big—something that would positively impact a lot of people. I used to think there was something wrong with me. But then I realized that I have this bigger purpose—of bringing joy to the world and to the workplace—and that people need what I have to offer. I can show people the way to find more joy.

And it is because of my resolve, that when I get hit with yet another “bad” event, I focus on love, on genuinely connecting to people, sharing my message, looking for the lessons, and staying committed to making a positive difference in the world.

So I pick myself back up, shake it off. Sometimes even get really pissed and say “No! I’m not going to let this stop me!”….and then I move on forward. And guess what? It does make a difference! So then I know I’m on the right path because it gets confirmed in so many ways.

I have a great tool that I developed called the Joyometer (you can download here and get a recording to the backstory of it). I call this a “mood management system” because it makes you aware of the feelings you are experiencing. We often say “I am mad,” “I am sad,” etc. But that is not who we are. We are just experiencing that particular emotion for a certain amount of time. When you can become fully aware of your emotional state, you step into your power. You are back in the driver’s seat of your life and can start to create and manifest things you truly want to experience.

Our world is going through a HUGE transformation right now. Even our Earth is feeling this energetic shift. Our job—ALL of us!—is to keep our frequency on a high level as we transition into a New Earth. Yes, we are going to experience (and are!) a lot of chaos. Just know this is a part of this process.

We are coming together as ONE, we are one in our humanity and we have this lovely planet barreling through space. So let’s come together in love, joy, peace and abundance. Let’s create new systems that are good for the planet and good for each other. It’s truly one of the most exciting times to be alive!

Why Small Moments Matter

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Reading up on the latest future trends and technologies, I can sometimes geek out. I’m fascinated to know what might be coming. We have entered a phase of accelerated change—things are going to happen so quickly and I do believe that many of the new technologies will be able to transform our world. The big key to all of this is to find your own inner peace and joy.

In all that I do, I have a core message that is simply choose love over fear. If you can live each day focusing on those small moments, looking for joy and all that is going well, you’ll find that at the end of the day, you can string these moments throughout the day (often bridging over the challenges and negativity) to realize that it was a pretty good day. And doing this every day means your weeks turn out pretty good, and in the end, chances are you’ll live a pretty darn good life!

This is a way of practicing gratitude very consciously.

A concept I share regularly with others is that you need to watch closely what you “feed your brain.” It’s so easy these days to get bombarded with negativity. You really have to make an effort to counter balance all the negativity with a lot of positive information. One of my latest favorite tricks (especially on my Facebook feed) is looking at awe-inspiring images. I’ve liked several pages that just post amazing pictures so my newsfeed is filled with beautiful pictures. And it makes me feel joy!

Appreciation is one of the fastest ways to feel better too. Whether you are showing gratitude to others or for those small moments, it shifts your way of looking at the world. You see things from a more positive light. I’m not saying it’s always easy. It’s very similar to a muscle that needs to be trained. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. So make that conscious choice each and every day.

The last thing I’d like to share is how you can keep your own peace. Just imagine the eye of the storm. It’s always calm and lovely while there’s a raging storm going on all around. Be that eye of the storm in your life. Make that choice! Learn to not go into knee-jerk reactions but rather, put a pause in, a space, where you can choose exactly how you want to respond. You can do this through taking three deep breathes before saying anything, taking a walk, being very mindful and be aware of your emotions. Don’t let things get to you, keep that peace inside of you and you will be a positive force to be reckoned with that will help to calm others as well. I promise that!

You are welcome to download one of my favorite tools, the Joyometer, at www.KarinVolo.com to help you learn to manage your emotions.

There are so many tricks we can use to consciously work on gratitude. What are some of your favorites? I’d love to hear about them.

3 Proven Actions to Having More Joy and Happiness in Your Life

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There are more than 7.4 billion people on the planet right now. The essence of what all people want comes down to four main things: love, peace, joy, and abundance.

I believe that people have an innate emotional set point—a place that a person returns to over and over on the broad scale of emotions we humans experience. So for example, I have an elderly relative has worried her entire life because she’s gone through many difficult times. Now that her life is actually better than it has been in a very long time, she still searches for things to worry about because that is where she tends to be most comfortable—and her brain is conditioned to this. Another relative from the same generation is always looking on the bright side and tends to have a very positive outlook. She’s full of energy and sometimes I can’t even keep up with her. Just comparing the levels of health with these two relatives shows me how your levels of happiness really does make a difference, especially over time.

During one of the toughest times in my life, I developed a way to become very aware or conscious of my feelings…and worked diligently to try and stay in a positive frame of mind. This tool is called the Joyometer™ and it is what I like to call a “mood management system” to help you stay aware of what you are feeling and how you can actively work to get yourself to a higher emotional state of being. (You can download the Joyometer here.)

Having had the good fortune to connect with hundreds of people through my work, and interview numerous thought leaders and change agents who are leaders in their field, I’ve found that there are three consistent strategies that people who are happier and living more joy filled lives actively work with to better their emotional state. They are the 3 G’s to Joy & Happiness:

Gratitude

Regardless of whatever is happening in your life, you can always find something to be grateful for…you are reading this right now and you are breathing! Finding things to appreciate and be thankful for in life helps you shift how you look at the world.

If you focus on what is going well, the tendency that more good will happen will generally increase. Gratitude helps your overall emotional well- being, helps you sleep better, increases your confidence and also betters your relationships. It’s a great way to lift you out of a funk.

Growth

Nature is constantly changing and our universe is continually expanding. As humans, we are happier when we are growing and learning on some level. We are meant to be pushing the boundaries and trying new things. People often say they are afraid of change but the reality is that life is constant change. Growth is optional and we can take a conscious effort to strive to be better and open our minds to new perspectives.

Just as water stagnates when it is still, so do we humans. It’s much healthier to be flowing like a river. When our basic needs are taken care of, it is natural for us to seek new relationships, new challenges, new jobs, and learning new skills. It’s a part of human nature to grow and that helps increase our levels of happiness as well.

Giving

Giving is the third strategy to increase the joy in your life. When you can help others, it will bring you a new perspective and studies show as we see others thrive, we feel better. Giving has three different levels:

Philanthropy — such as writing a check at the end of the year for a charity, there is very little interaction and not a deeper emotional connection although the act is most certainly appreciated.
Giving Back — for example, a mining company would give back to a community by planting parks and reforesting an old mine, there’s a feeling of doing something good to better a situation.
Contribution – an example is volunteering with elderly or homeless, something that is more interactive with time and energy and also having a deeper emotional connection and understanding of doing something for the greater good of all.

Random acts of kindness will increase your own level of happiness and joy in ways that you might not even expect. The deeper the emotional connection in the giving, the more positive—and lasting—impact it will have with you.

When you consistently practice these three actions of Gratitude, Growth, and Giving, you will notice how it brings more energy and vibrancy to your own life. Play around and experiment with this for a week and see how it makes a difference, not only in your life but also those around you.