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Stop Stuffing That Pain!

We are in some dire need for collective healing all over this planet. There has been so much pain coming to the surface and so many stuffed emotions rearing their ugly little heads. Things we didn’t want to feel again.

According to scientific research, we store traumas in our cells. We can even carry our ancestor’s traumas in our DNA. The more aware we are of this, the more proactively we can work to heal ourselves, and our world.

When we have worked through our emotions, the stories we carry no longer have an emotional charge. I have felt this in my own life several times. I’ve stuffed away painful situations, hoping to never see them again, only to have it surface years later in unforeseen circumstances. And I’ve worked hard to break the patterns of pain, to try and fully heal, so that I don’t have to experience something again. It takes courage and a very conscious effort to do this “inner work.”

Sometimes it may feel like there are dark forces attacking or negative energies behind what is happening in your life. It knocks you down hard. And you have to pick yourself up again, shake it off, and keep moving forward. You may even reach a point that you just want to scream a big F you! You will NOT be held back! You are a force for good and of the light!

We are collectively experiencing a revelation–a bright light of truth shining on our global pain. It is bringing to surface those hidden emotions that we haven’t wanted to deal with, showing corruption and horrific events that we didn’t even know were possible.

The #MeToo movement has touched so many lives, both with women and men. People who have been hurt and abused are speaking out and this is good. I can tell you that 100% of women I know have all experienced abuse from men at one point in their lives. And I know a lot of men as well who are telling their stories.

We need to collectively take a stand and say NO MORE!

We will not tolerate any sort of abuse, any sort of misconduct, any sort of sexual inappropriateness, and certainly not any sort of physical, mental, emotional, and even spiritual abuse. From anyone! Or any institution!

We also need to dig for the truth. There are things happening in our world right now that are happening on so many levels. Many of the current affairs mean one thing on the surface and almost the complete opposite underneath the rhetoric and propaganda.

I do believe that the TRUTH will set us free! Be open-minded to having your beliefs rocked and shaken to the core.

I remember reading a term “religious abuse” in a book a decade ago for the first time. We are seeing how just how many “trusted” people in all of our institutions, whether they are religious, political, educational, media, business, etc, have used their power inappropriately.

No more.

The majority of people on this planet are good. They love their families and want peace. And the scariest thing of all for the evil ones is that we come together. They try to divide us through race, beliefs, politics, education, culture, and in so many ways. We the people are rising above this. We ARE coming together. We are feeling our pain and it’s moving us to action! It IS happening.

So let’s continue to have intelligent conversations. Authentic dialogues. Let’s support each other. Have compassion and empathy for each other on this journey we call life.

Because life has been painful. For ALL of us in one way or another.

And we can make a conscious choice to rise above it. To use that pain to fuel our passion and make a positive difference.

To connect us to each other, heart to heart. And to heal. To love one another.

And to decide that we are better than the pain.

We are stronger, wiser, and more resilient.

Because in the end, it comes down to: did we live our lives fully? Did we give more love and support? Did we follow our hearts? Did we do good in the world? Did we make a positive impact?

That’s what we’ll be remembered for and that is how we will celebrate our lives!

Make the conscious choice to be empowered and choose love over fear. Each and every time! We can do this!

What’s Your Word for 2018?

Do you think of a theme or a word for each year? It’s a great exercise someone recently mentioned to me. I’ve decided that this year’s theme for me is evolution. It’s one of my core words anyway and it feels appropriate for this year as well.

One of my favorite sayings is “Life is change. Change is constant. Growth is optional.” I’ve lived by this for many years now. I believe that life happens FOR us not TO us. When we can make this mental shift, we drop the victim mentality and start to think that the Universe has our back, even through the challenges and tough times, which if you are breathing, you WILL have! It’s a part of the human experience.

It is often through the toughest times that we can grow and evolve the most. It somehow forces us to dig deep inside and find what we need to make it through the challenges. At least that has been my experience.

So choosing growth, choosing to evolve, and leaning into trust that things are going to work out for you in the long run, makes it possible to be strong and resilient through whatever life may throw your way. We ALL have an inner core strength of courage and those difficult times helps you to grow.

Growth of course can happen in good times as well. It seems like when you are reaching for goals, dreams, and desires that are outside of your comfort zone, you learn to expand your comfort zone to make it bigger. And guess, what? It stays there!

Two years ago when I released my personal story, 1,352 Days, I ended up all over the media in Sweden. I was on radio and TV shows, even LIVE TV, doing interviews in Swedish (holy cow!! that was a HUGE stretch for me!). For most of the interviews, I was pretty calm inside and the reason is because I was (and still am) very purpose driven. I knew that I had a message to share and get out into the world and if I could use my personal story of immense challenges to inspire others, and to share that no matter what happens, choose love over fear, then I was willing to expand my comfort zone as far as I needed. That was a year of huge evolution to me.

I believe that our world is going through a HUGE evolution right now as well. It seems like so many people I know are having to deal with their emotional baggage, issues that they might not have dealt with or wanted to deal with. But now is the time for each of us to do the internal clearing and healing. Watching what has happened with the #MeToo movement all over the world is both bringing up issues and (hopefully) healing for those who have experienced any sort of harassment.

It is time for us to embrace the changes, to consciously create the world we want to live in, and to take our power back—both individually and collectively. Together we are stronger. We have the opportunity to step into our best selves and we are evolving.

So what is your word for 2018?